I don’t know. I haven’t decided. Let me think on it. I’ll get back to you. Maybe. I’m unsure. Later. Someday I will.
Do these sound familiar? I know I’ve heard them…and I’ve said them. We comment this way when we are not quite convinced one way or the other if we want to do something, so we “marinate”.
In life’s decisions, it’s often necessary (and wise) to take a moment to consider our options and wait to make a move one way or the other. However, at some point, the indecision becomes our decision. We are on hold, waiting and although it feels like we are trying to do the right thing by waiting, we’ve already decided to be undecided.
It’s in this time period of nothingness that is actually the painful part. Deciding to go forward or deciding with a clear mind to do absolutely nothing gets the load of something undecided off our shoulders. It might feel like that once we make the choice the hard work begins, but I see it all the time…the pain is in the wavering. The pain is when we can’t move, in any direction.
Like the person who wants to lose 20 pounds but can’t quite commit to doing the work. They consider the work is the hard part. The work is hard…but what’s harder is wanting to do get the results, but not quite committing to it and reliving the “desire” to be healthier, day after day, year after year, but never quite jumping fully “in”. Wishing at the end of every day that they could complete (or rather start) the journey.
How about the person who keeps saying “someday I’d like to take a trip to Europe” yet, someday never happens. Years go by and it’s always a thought, but actions are not taken to achieve the dream.
How about the person who wants to complete a triathlon. They clearly want to, but the training never starts, only the desire to think about it. They then get frustrated with themselves because year after year it’s on the goal list, but the goal never really gets off the ground.
I’m saying, stop the pain! Decide to go for it, or to move on and let it go. It’s torture when we can’t make up our minds, but it’s liberating when we can pull the plug and move on something…even if it’s not perfect at least you’ve begun!
